Friday, January 25, 2013

The New Year and Intentions



I've always wondered why people make a big to-do about coming up with goals and resolutions the beginning of every calendar year.  Here it is 2013 -- day 23 of January, the month already half over.


Perhaps it's an innate human quality to strive to do better, to be more optimistic at the start of anything...signaling an opportunity for change. Many cultures other than the West, also pay tribute to the beginning of the year, the Chinese and Persian New Years are just two examples.  All celebrate the end of the old and the start of the new...

What are your goals for this year?

Mine's are very simple: to be present in what I am doing at the moment (translated: do away with multi-tasking), be conscious of my breathing (translated: slow down, I am not running a marathon),  enjoy the people around me more (translated: see the good in everyone even though they get on my nerves) AND the big one: SMILE MORE! (It takes more muscles to frown than smile).

Before I go to bed, I run my lists of things to be grateful for -- the opportunity to build community and be a part of one, to watch my children blossom into their own unique individuals, the promise of the continuance of life with each toddler or baby that is a new addition to my growing family.  I look at myself in the mirror and watch the grey creeping over my once dark mane, the corners of my eyes looking somewhat weathered from the many decades of challenges in my life...I can smile about those now.



It is much easier now that I no longer have to prove myself to the world -- my past life was centered around pleasing and serving everyone, catering only to myself as a last resort; losing myself in the process of diminished priority.  I think this is a pattern for most women with families and work.  Achieving balance is a very difficult task in a society where the pace is quite fast and achievement is marked by the number of things one is able to accomplish in as little time as possible.

And so we come back to intentions and resolutions.  I planted lavender in my front yard, a visual reminder for me to be mindful of things that are truly important...this lavender is the first thing I see when I open my front door, the last thing I see when I lock it.



"Travel light, live light, spread the light, BE the light!!!" -- Yogi tea bag

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

Garden Cat

Feral cat -- (Wikipedia definition) is a "descendent of a domesticated cat that has returned to the wild.  It is distinguished from a stray cat, which has been lost or abandoned, while FERAL CATS are born in the wild."

Semi-Feral --
(Wikipedia definition) is an animal that lives predominantly in a feral state.  This may be due to having been born into a domesticated state and then reverting to life in wild conditions, or it may be an animal that grows up in essentially wild conditions but have developed a comfort level with humans due to feeding, receiving medical care, or similar contacts."


It all happened rather insidiously.  Six months ago, maybe more --

We've always had stray cats roaming the neighborhood.  Often, I would find one underneath my white van; comfortably settled -- surveying the world with seemingly wise eyes.  But as quickly as they sensed my awareness of them, they would dart super-speed to some other territory, coming back only when they feel safe.

My youngest daughter has always wanted a pet -- dog, cat, bunny -- anything soft and cuddly but requiring lots of work in the feeding, cleaning and monitoring of yet ANOTHER responsibility.  And though my child swears up and down that she will ultimately be in charge of the above -- we all know that once the honeymoon phase is over, Mom will once again be the one to pick up the slack.

So it came to be that one day, I notice this grey tabby, skinny and looking roughed up, hanging out in the backyard.  I would see it gracefully scale the side fence, confidently striding on all four paws. I think more or less, claiming territory over the fence and the domain that lies within its walls.  It was actually with annoyance that I noticed this cat.  I had a suspicion that it used my vegetable bed as a over-sized litter box.  I was trying to figure out how to discourage her from desecrating my vegetable garden with her poop...Sigh!  If not snails or aphids -- now, this...well, I suppose better a cat than a raccoon invasion.


At first we were not sure if the backyard cat was a "he" or a "she" --we named HER Katniss, nonetheless...yes, the "Hunger Games" mania continues to spill over in real life...Katniss and the daughter with the obsession related to the book.

We started to set out a bowl of water and cat food, which she ravenously would consume.  Then, we'd watch her clean her paws; whenever we tried to get close, she would hiss...baring her fangs at us --but that was all.  We knew not to touch her, even if she allowed us that honor-- until, we were sure.  As the weeks rolled into months, Katniss no longer hissed, she came to expect the bowl of cat food and water at certain times of the day.  At one point, we were able to touch her with a forefinger and she would look, but not hiss...

I noticed one day, and so did everyone else in the house that she was carrying more weight, her stride slower and heavier.  She had also grown bigger -- maturing from the adolescent stage (I think) of our initial acquaintance.  "Is she pregnant, Mom?"  My daughter voicing the question that has been running through my mind.  "Don't know!  What do we do now if she is?...Oh, my God!"


The answer came in form of a local newspaper article on the capturing of wild cats by an organization called Island Cat Rescue Alameda.  Many editorials were written in the paper about the great work ICRA is doing in terms of temporarily catching wild cat, vaccinating and ensuring that the ferals will not breed more neglected cats. Once checked and vaccinated, they are released back into the neighborhood and in certain cases, they are put up for adoption.

I did not have a phone number but I sent them an e-mail.  A few weeks later, I received a phone call from one of their volunteer trappers.  She was very knowledgeable about the subject of feral and semi-feral cats.  She described to us what the normative behaviors of each type of animal was and what ICRA does to help people like me who have concerns and questions. Mines was, does she need her shots and if she is pregnant -- what would be the next step?  I did not see myself keeping a whole litter of kittens, although my child would definitely LOVE that!

M. came immediately, in fact, that same afternoon of our conversation.  The front door bell rang and this woman armed with a cage and two tins of cat food came in and went to work.  She showed me how to set the trap and where; how to correctly place the cat food for optimum enticement and we were done. With kitchen back door wide open, we waited and watched...



As luck would have it, Katniss emerged from her makeshift shelter and started to sniff at the outside of the cage where the chunks of cat food were strategically smeared.  M. with her expert and experienced eye told me right away that Katniss had already been tagged.  "Notice that one of her ears had been clipped slightly...and no, she is to pregnant -- she is just fat!!"

"Whaaat?"  Relieved and somewhat disappointed at the same time, (the  idea of being Cat Grandma was already growing on me and we had started to find homes for the future kittens among our families and friends)..."Yes," M added.  "Your cat must be double-dipping somewhere else."

Okay...so now we know that Garfield, the cartoon cat was based on a real fat cats like Katniss.

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Island Cat Rescue Alameda (ICRA) -- a volunteer organization dedicated "to reducing the suffering of the mistreated, abandoned and feral (wild) cat populations and to educating and empowering the local,community to aid in their plight" (From: www.icaeastbay.org)

Info@icaeastbay.org
(510) 869-2584